Monday, April 25, 2011

National Infertility Awareness Week- Bust a Myth

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Myth: Having a miscarriage means you are fertile.

For what seems like an eternity now, Matt and I have been trying to expand our family.  In the beginning we thought it would happen exactly like they teach us in school- go off the pill and wait for a positive pregnancy test.  WRONG!  Being as OCD as I am I started taking my temperature every morning and soon noticed a pattern that was not conducive to conceiving.  I went to see my doctor and started Clomid, a common fertility drug that aides ovulation.  Again, I thought it would happen right away.  WRONG!  A few months later I endured a pretty painful procedure to “help” the process along and a few months after that we did finally achieve a pregnancy.  Sadly, we lost our little one at 10 weeks in September 2010. 

Having a miscarriage is life-changing.  It’s one of those things that you never understand until you are experiencing it and no words can help anyone else understand.  I have come to compartmentalize our recent life events into BL: Before Loss, and AL: After Loss.  As painful as infertility is, pregnancy loss is a different kind of hell.  And infertility combined with miscarriage…well that’s just cruel.

After the miscarriage people would say, “well at least you know you can get pregnant.”  Even my therapist tried to make miscarriage into a sliver lining.  I didn’t have to worry about that “infertility stuff” anymore.  Surely I would get pregnant again soon and go onto have a healthy pregnancy.  That may be true for some people, but others of us continue to be unlucky.  Others of us revisit that grief of what “could” have been month after month after month.  We are reminded on a monthly basis that we are NOT pregnant.

Now we are back on the infertility roller-coaster trying to achieve a healthy pregnancy that ends in a take-home baby.  On Wednesday of this week I will undergo a laparoscopy to remove endometrial scarring and hopefully bring us closer to being a family of 3.  Prayers for this procedure and my recovery are much appreciated. 

If you know someone who is currently battling infertility, or has recently suffered a loss, know that just your presence and kind words go a long way.  Hug them and tell them that what they are going through is bullshit  and something no one should ever have to face.  Tell them you are thinking about them and lend your should when they need to cry.  Show up with a bottle of wine and a funny story when they get home from another doctor’s appointment.  And read this article on infertility etiquette.  Then re-read it and share it with a friend. 

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Easter/ Mom’s birthday

We’ve had a busy but fun weekend filled with family.  Saturday Matt’s family came into town from Louisiana.  We all met at the McDaniel’s house and had BBQ with all the fixin’s.  The kids spent a lot of time in the pool and we got some time to visit.  I’m glad everyone was able to come in town this weekend; I feel like we only get to see Matt’s family at Christmas. 

Today was my mom’s birthday AND Easter, so we had everyone over to our house after church for lunch.  Brooxie Kate came as the Easter Bunny!

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How cute is she?!?  She is talking up a storm now and just busy as a little bee.  She can “pattycake” and wave bye-bye.  She’s practicing “Mama” and hopefully soon “Aunt Amanda and Uncle Matty.”  Smile  I wish I could understand all of her baby babble.  I’m sure she’s telling us how crazy we all are!  Lol!

Mom requested ham, brussel sprouts, fruit salad and a carrot cake for her birthday.  It was great that we were able to celebrate both Easter and her birthday today. 

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Her new swimsuit!

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Mom and her carrot cake.  Happy birthday!

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Matty and Cooper napping after lunch

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With Auntie Carol. BKC is wearing one of mine and Laura’s old outfits.  Vintage!

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Mama K and “her” baby

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Happy Easter, 2011!

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"Don't be alarmed," he said. "You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, 'He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.' " – Mark 16:6

Friday, April 22, 2011

April 22, 2011

Thinking of you today.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Cortney’s bridal showers

I’ve been too busy with cheer tryouts this week (more on that later) to blog, but I don’t want to forget these showers when I look back at 2011.

These past two weekends the Carter girls (me, mom, Laura and Brooks) went to College Station for a bridal shower.  My mom’s BFF, Tammy, lives in Bryan so we hosted a “Stuff the Invitations” shower last weekend and attended a luncheon this weekend.  It was so nice to get to spend time with my mom and sister and Brooks, AND get to go to my favorite place on Earth. 

Brooks has been “talking” up a storm lately and I tried my best to get some of it on video.  Her favorite phrase right now is “Da-da” and Daddy J is soooo pleased.  Smile  We really tried to practice “Mama” this weekend but she has a stubborn streak like her mom.  Winking smile 

The invitations shower went really well and we got ALL of the invitations tied, stuffed, stamped and set to go in about 30 minutes! 

Brooxie got her first pedi for the shower!


Me and my schnukum’s


Assembling invites


This girl LOVES to be upside-down






This past weekend at the Traditions Club

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Like Mama, like daughter

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Happy girl

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Mama K, Brooks and Mrs. Tammy

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Congrats to Cortney and Ryan!  We are really looking forward to their wedding in June!